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Eight Tory leadership candidates declare themselves feminists

Women's News from the Web - Thu, 05/30/2019 - 08:11

Candidates respond after Dominic Raab said he was ‘probably not’ a feminist

Most of the Conservative leadership candidates – Boris Johnson, Jeremy Hunt, Sajid Javid, Michael Gove, Matthew Hancock, Andrea Leadsom, Rory Stewart and James Cleverly – have all declared that they are feminists, after Dominic Raab said he was “probably not” one.

The question of women’s equality became an issue in the contest after Raab, one of the favourites to be Conservative leader, rejected the label of feminism and stuck by his 2011 assertion that feminists are among the most “obnoxious bigots”.

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Wisdom for happy, modern marriages | Letters

Women's News from the Web - Thu, 05/30/2019 - 07:03
Men who want to change need to organise themselves, writes Henrietta Cubitt. And one reader reflects on her relationship of 50-plus years

What an interesting article by Hadley Freeman (Marriage isn’t the problem, it’s husbands, 30 May). I agree that for a marriage to be happy, it needs to be an equal partnership. The problem is, we learn how to behave from our parents, and other adults, showing us when we are children. A girl learns very early that she is expected to grow up and be like her mother (and other women), and she watches and learns, this before she is old enough to remember. Boys learn the same about growing up to be men; they see that they won’t be doing any childcare or managing the house, so they don’t need to learn how to do it.

With some things, people notice when they are older that something isn’t fair and they decide, consciously, to do it differently when they grow up. But it would not help relationships if women had to teach their husbands how to look after the baby, how to wash up, and especially how to keep in mind all the chores that need to be done. Could men who want to change organise themselves into a group and arrange to be taught these things? Please don’t tell me women should do that for them!
Henrietta Cubitt

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Revealed: women's fertility app is funded by anti-abortion campaigners

Women's News from the Web - Wed, 05/29/2019 - 20:00

The Femm app has users in the US, EU and Africa and sows doubt over the safety of birth control, a Guardian investigation has found

A popular women’s health and fertility app sows doubt about birth control, features claims from medical advisers who are not licensed to practice in the US, and is funded and led by anti-abortion, anti-gay Catholic campaigners, a Guardian investigation has found.

The Femm app, which collects personal information about sex and menstruation from users, has been downloaded more than 400,000 times since its launch in 2015, according to developers. It has users in the US, the EU, Africa and Latin America, its operating company claims.

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Disney CEO: abortion law would make it difficult to keep filming in Georgia

Women's News from the Web - Wed, 05/29/2019 - 16:17

Bob Iger said many who work for Disney would not want to work there if the strict law, which bans abortion as early as six weeks, was in effect

The chief executive of the Walt Disney Company said Georgia’s new strict abortion law would make it “very difficult” for the media company to keep filming in the state.

Walt Disney Co chief executive Bob Iger told Reuters on Wednesday that the law would cause many people to not want to work in the state if it were to go in effect.

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Louisiana is latest to pass six-week abortion ban

Women's News from the Web - Wed, 05/29/2019 - 13:01

In a 79-23 vote, Louisiana house passed bill that would prohibit the procedure before some women even know they are pregnant

Louisiana lawmakers on Wednesday passed a strict new abortion ban that would prohibit the procedure before some women even know they are pregnant, joining a half-dozen conservative states with similar measures.

In a 79-23 vote, the Louisiana house gave final passage to a bill barring abortion beyond the sixth week of pregnancy. The law is described inaccurately by its supporters as banning abortion after a “fetal heartbeat” is detected, but experts have pointed out that this terminology is wrong on both accounts.

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The BBC ripped off my Slay in Your Lane slogan – now I’m being attacked | Yomi Adegoke

Women's News from the Web - Wed, 05/29/2019 - 04:55

The phrase, which my co-author and I trademarked in 2018, is the title of our book about uplifting black women. When I called out an all-white team at the BBC for using it on a billboard, I was shocked at the reaction

In 2015, my best friend, Elizabeth Uviebinené, sent me a picture of Solange Knowles at Paris fashion week, basking in the pre-release glow of a seminal album and coming into her own after years under the moniker “Beyoncé’s little sister”. Elizabeth captioned it “Slay in Your Lane”. I rang her to say it would be the name of the book we were going to write – a guide to life aimed at black British women, featuring advice from trailblazing interviewees.

We hadn’t come across the phrase elsewhere and thought it was clever, so in 2018 we trademarked it. The BBC thought it was clever, too: last week, our readers began to notify us of billboards they had seen emblazoned with the slogan. Most who contacted us assumed, since it used a bold font like the one on the cover of our book and was fronted by Dina Asher-Smith, a successful black British sprinter, that there was some affiliation or that we were at least aware of the BBC’s use of the slogan for its campaign. We weren’t, and immediately made contact with the BBC. We received no response for four days.

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How Joe Hildebrand made the murder of a woman about his feelings | Van Badham

Women's News from the Web - Tue, 05/28/2019 - 20:26

Either we can truthfully have the conversation about how we work together to transform the social understanding of gender roles or – do what, exactly?

Commentator Joe Hildebrand informed me this morning that one of my Twitter followers is a murderer.

He can’t tell me which one, of course. He’s speaking statistically, not to me direct, in a comment piece he published to justify the remarks he made on Studio 10 earlier this week.

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Book Release: Wounds into Wisdom

Women's eNews - Tue, 05/28/2019 - 10:57

Wounds into Wisdom: Healing Intergenerational Trauma, by Rabbi Tirzah Firestone, PhD.

“This book is applicable to any and every ethnic group,” Rabbi Tirzah Firestone, PhD., says. “It speaks to every woman who has been objectified or who has fear of harassment.” By studying trauma, Dr. Firestone has learned that the biological memory in all of us will continue to vibrate within us, stimulated by what our ancestors’ experienced. “We are connected not only between one another, but also from generation to generation. There are horizontal ripples and longitudinal ripples,” she continues, “Every thing we do to liberate ourselves from trauma will also impact generations. This is particularly true between mothers and daughters. It is never too late.”


Shedding New Light on a Dark History

In my twenty-fifth year, I dreamed of a slender Hungarian woman dressed in a fur coat. Beneath her lavish attire, I saw that she was, in fact, a naked skeleton, peering at me with both irony and affection. The woman could see that I was young and raw, paralyzed by an unnamed guilt, barely able to buy myself a teapot or a secondhand sweater without being assailed by self-doubt.

Dahlink, she called to me, her thick accent comforting and somehow familiar: Don’t be a fool! Don’t you think we would be enjoying our beautiful things if we could? Her jaw clacked with boney laughter.

Suddenly the lights went on and the room filled with rich- ly clad Hungarian ladies, skeletons all, enjoying a tea party. It was clear that they were all dead, yet they were also radi- ant and full of life. Turning toward me, their voices rose in unison: Do you think it helps us that you suffer? Live the life we could not live!

I sat up in bed and wept. Their words had penetrated me, touching the core of my malaise, an outsized case of survivor’s guilt I did not know I had. Live the life we could not live! These words became a turning point, a mantra, a north star. I took them with me as I found my footing in the world, followed the call to become a psychotherapist, and ultimately, rejoined the religion that I had fled.

But it was not until fifteen years later that I learned the truth of my dream. I learned that my German grandmother’s entire family came from Austro-Hungary; almost all had been murdered in Nazi Europe. Their elegant bearing had not helped them one wit to escape Hitler’s roundups; their assim- ilation into high society meant nothing in the end. Stripped of all their beautiful things, they died like paupers in the death camps.

Like many post-Holocaust families, my parents did not speak directly of these matters. The heavy legacy of loss re- mained muted. Yet for my five siblings and me, it was like finding ourselves in deep waters without life vests or instruc- tion. We responded as best we could, each of us fighting the undertow of history, swimming or sinking, not knowing how to help one another, divided by the trauma we had inherited, but never knowing why.

Scholars of intergenerational trauma tell us that the silence shrouding a family’s untold stories paradoxically becomes the strongest form of transmission. This was the case in my own family, and in myriad families with whom I have worked as rabbi and psychotherapist.

Yet, there is an inner compulsion to know. “One has to know one’s buried truth in order to be able to live one’s life,” writes the late Professor Dori Laub, himself a survivor. Many of us struggle to bring to consciousness the hidden legacies that our families bequeath to us. For some, it takes years to piece together the unspoken wounds that have shaped our lives. The residue of our ancestors’ unresolved injury does not simply disappear. In fact, it often weighs most heavily on the introspective, sensitive members of the next generations.

Rabbi Tirzah Firestone, PhD, is an author, Jungian psychotherapist, and founding rabbi of Congregation Nevei Kodesh in Boulder, Colorado. Ordained by Rabbi Zalman Schachter Shalomi in 1992, she is a leader in the international Jewish Renewal Movement and a renowned Jewish scholar and teacher.

Next time you have a meeting dominated by men, consider how it is affecting homelessness | Ben Burge and Catharine Lumby

Women's News from the Web - Tue, 05/28/2019 - 08:00

We need to recognise our contribution to economic and social factors that render many women less financially self-sufficient than men

There’s a wonderful New Yorker cartoon that shows a woman seated at a conference table with five men. The man chairing the committee says: “That’s an excellent suggestion, Ms Smith. Perhaps one of the men here would like to make it.”

When we think about gendered bias in workplaces we naturally focus on what happens to women at work. But it’s equally important to understand how discrimination affects women in daily lives and well into their futures.

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Supreme court upholds Indiana abortion law but avoids broader issue

Women's News from the Web - Tue, 05/28/2019 - 06:17

Court is splitting 7-2 on fetal remains measure but staying out of debate over limits on a woman’s right to an abortion

The US supreme court is upholding an Indiana law that requires abortion providers to dispose of aborted embryos and fetuses in the same way as human remains. But the justices are staying out of the debate over a broader provision that would prevent a woman in Indiana from having an abortion based on gender, race or disability.

The court is splitting 7-2 in allowing Indiana to enforce the fetal remains measure that had been blocked by a federal appeals court.

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The stigma over periods won’t end until boys learn about them too | Amika George

Women's News from the Web - Tue, 05/28/2019 - 00:40
One in five young women in the UK has experienced bullying about periods. Boys must be taught menstruation is not taboo

My friend Ben told me how, in a house of three boys, his mum would stealthily hide her box of tampons to avoid questioning from her sons. Other male friends remember being separated from the girls in their class to be taught sex education, or being left in complete bewilderment when the “time of the month” or “PMS” was mentioned in teenage conversation. A male friend at university told me: “The thing is with periods, you don’t even know what you don’t know.” The world of menstruation is often a mystery to those who haven’t experienced it. A big, red secret that half the world’s population endure while the other half remain in blissful ignorance. That cultural taboo needs to change.

Related: One in five girls and young women bullied about periods – study

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One in five girls and young women bullied about periods – study

Women's News from the Web - Mon, 05/27/2019 - 20:59

Two-thirds of UK girls miss classes because of periods in culture of ‘stigma and shame’

One in five girls and young women in the UK are teased or bullied about their periods, with many suffering in silence, according to research.

Of the 20% of 14- to 21-year-olds to tell pollsters they were targeted, nearly half (49%) said they had not spoken to anyone about the abuse. About 67% said abuse mainly happened at school, and 66% said they had missed classes because of their period.

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Access to menstrual health and hygiene is a right. Period. | Elizabeth Payne

Women's News from the Web - Mon, 05/27/2019 - 18:20

Right now, 800 million girls and women are menstruating: so why is it still ‘secret women’s business’?

That time of the month, shark week, Aunt Flow, on your rags, the flowers, period.

There are more than 69 different terms that we use globally to describe menstruation other than the word itself. We have so many code words and euphemisms because, in 2019, sadly, many of us are still uncomfortable talking openly about periods. Don’t you think it’s time we got over it?

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“Now What?” Podcast: Carole Zimmer with Mary Pipher

Women's eNews - Mon, 05/27/2019 - 15:05
It’s a subject that’s been on my mind — older women. They’ve been the target of jokes forever. Now that I’m a little older myself, I’m not so sure I like that, and neither does clinical psychologist and bestselling author  Mary Pipher. Pipher wrote the seminal book about adolescent girls, “Reviving Ophelia.” Now, she’s traveled to the other end of the age spectrum with her latest book “Women Rowing North.” It’s about flourishing as we age. To round out our conversation, I invited my young friend Haley Zimring to join us. Haley is 28 and has two young children.
So here we are, talking young and old and all the stages in between.
– Carole Zimmer

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Marriage and children don’t always make women happy. Who knew? | Suzanne Moore

Women's News from the Web - Mon, 05/27/2019 - 07:12

Should Prof Paul Dolan’s pronouncements change the way we think about life? Er …

Some of my best friends are in a subgroup: “unmarried and childless women”. Its members, according to a professor of behavioural science at the London School of Economics, are the “happiest subgroup in the population”. Paul Dolan, in a talk at the Hay festival, told the audience that the latest evidence, including longitudinal studies, shows that the markers conventionally used to measure success – marriage and children – do not correlate with happiness. Well, knock me down with a Fetherlight condom. Who knew? Except the many women who actually have quite nice lives?

We are told that marriage, usually of the heterosexual, monogamous kind, is the key to intimacy, if not ecstasy, and that it is somehow good for our health. It is good for men because their wives nag them to see the doctor and, possibly, to eat better. For women, this is not necessarily the case. Indeed, as most women have children and work, life can be pretty tough.

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